hello shorter hair

i cut my hair with a length I'm not used to having. I cut it because i'm so desperate, sad.. and everything negative this holiday season. it's so unfair that he let me believe I'm going to see him in person at last. It's so unfair.

thanks to indios bravos

I had my glam back. thanks to kei-es, ahleks, paul, jun and indios bravos. (cropped original photo)

-greta

Put the Spark Back in Your Relationship

By: Dr. Laura Berman

Maintaining a healthy and happy relationship is not always an easy feat. Great relationships take work. Even the most compatible of lovebirds will encounter cold spells and roadblocks on their journey to "happily ever after."

Fortunately, there are a few simple things you can do to help ensure the success of your relationship:

• Weekly date night: By now, most couples have heard about the "weekly date night" rule. But how many of you have actually taken this advice to heart? Chances are, you tried it once or twice...but then soon abandoned it in the face of kids, errands, and other priorities. Recommit to this relationship rule. You and your spouse need this time to talk, share, and bond. If you are short on time or cash, at least be sure to spend an hour or two together. Take a walk around the neighborhood, or share a few glasses of wine in your backyard. Just be sure to enjoy your spouse without distractions at least once a week.
• Vacation, no kids allowed: While weekly date nights are a great way to begin increasing intimacy, women often need more than just a couple of hours a week in order to truly de-stress and focus on their loved one. Since women are multitaskers, it can be hard for them to disengage completely from their many responsibilities. This is where vacations come into play! Recent studies have found that couples who take just one vacation a year see vast improvement in their relationships. Use your vacation to break away from your day-to-day routine. Relax with your partner and revive your relationship. However, there is one caveat to keep in mind: No kids! You need to enjoy quality adult time. Hire a babysitter or call in a favor with the grandparents -- no guilt allowed!
• I love you, times four: For most couples, saying the words "I love you" can become routine. Rediscover the importance of these three little words by remembering to say them at least four times a day. And don't just repeat them ad nauseam! Find new, exciting, or even funny ways to spout your love for your partner. Try slipping a note in his lunch bag, tracing it in the bathroom mirror after a hot shower, or even just whispering it to her first thing in the morning!
• The ten-second kiss: When was the last time you kissed your spouse? Really, truly, passionately kissed them? Chances are, it's been awhile! However, kissing is a special and important way for you to bond with your partner. Make the time to kiss your partner for 10 seconds every single day. It is bound to feel unnatural at first, but this is just a tool to get you back in the habit of kissing your partner. Before long, you will find that kissing has become a spontaneous and fun part of your relationship again!
• Voice three appreciations to each other: What do you appreciate about your partner? Is he a good father? Is she a great listener? Does he always remember to empty the dishwasher? Does she always have a cup of coffee waiting for you in the morning? No matter what you appreciate about your partner, be it large or small, make sure to voice it! I challenge all of my readers: Tell your partner 3 things you appreciate about them. Make sure to be specific - instead of saying, "I appreciate you for being a good father," say "I appreciate when you read to the kids before bed." Your partner will be blown away by your love and approval!

Now that I have given you some of my tips for a happy relationship, discuss with your loved one what's already working in your relationship and share that with each other...and all the rest of us! What are your tried-and-true tips for a loving relationship?

sharing you a nice post on Yahoo! health

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/sexualhealing/22572/put-the-spark-back-in-your-relationship/

"Kung gusto, madaming paraan. Kung ayaw, madaming dahilan."

"Kung gusto, madaming paraan. Kung ayaw, madaming dahilan."

This is very much true. Madalas ko nalang isipin kung ano bang meron sa akin kung bakit ayaw nya ako makita; kung anong wala sa akin na meron sa mga ibang babae na nakilala nya. Oo, hindi ako maganda. Oo, hindi ako sexy. Oo, hindi ako matangkad. Oo, napakapangit ko. Oo, napakataba ko. Oo, napakapandak ko. Oo, siopao mukha ko. Oo, malaki at pango ilong ko. Oo, hindi pang beauty queen itsura ko, para sa panget-queen lang.
Pinapagalitan nya ako pag minamaliit ko sarili ko. pero sinasabi ko lang naman ung katotohanan. Wala pa siguro ako sa kalingkingan ng mga naging girlfriend nya noon. Malaking bagay sa isang relasyon ang panglabas na anyo ng isang tao. subalit ang sabi ng iba, kumukupas din ang ganda. Hindi. ang ganda ay isang katangiang natural sa isang babae. Ang itsura ay natural at naipapasa sa mga susunod na henerasyon.
Bakit nga ba nya ako minamahal? Kung mahal nya ako ng lubos at tunay, gugustuhin din nya na kahit sandali ay makita nya ako at mahawakan ang aking mga kamay. kung totoong "miss" nya ako, pipiliin nya na kahit isang araw ay makasama nya ako. apat na taon na hindi kami ngkita. apat na taon din na hindi ko nadinig ang tinig nya kahit sa telepono. Kung maswertehan nga ako ay tawa lang nya ang aking maririnig.
Madaming tanong sa isip ko na walang tiyak na sagot. Madami ang bumabagabag sa isipan ko na nakakaapekto sa aking pananaw sa buhay. Madaming beses kong naisip na kitilin ang aking sariling buhay. Madaming beses kong naisip na wala akong kwenta. Pero madalas din sumagi sa isip ko "buti pa ako kahit pano may matitirhan, may napagaralan, may mapagkukunan ng panggastos araw araw kumpara sa mga kapwa ko pinoy na kapos sa buhay."
Pagod na akong umiyak. pagod na akong magisip. Mapapagod din kaya akong magmahal?

dating 101

this is an enlightening fact.

a post from yahoo personals : link: http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/24081/dating-101-why-guys-dump-girls-they-dig

Dating 101: Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig

Nothing is more upsetting than when a dude you know is into you pulls the plug. One man gets to the bottom of out-of-the-blue breakups.

By Cosmopolitan Photo: Anna Palma


The Timing Is Off

Chances are, you've had at least one breakup that left you wondering, "What just happened?" The guy dug you, you dug him, and the whole thing felt destined for a fabulous future -- at least the foreseeable one. Then, out of nowhere, he bailed on the relationship. So what went wrong? The sad dating truth is, maybe nothing. Here are five completely ridiculous reasons guys kick you to the curb. Warning: For the most part, it ain't pretty.Single women get serious when they meet the right man. Single men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we're finally ready to settle down. That means after every other aspect of our life is in order -- whether it's finishing grad school, finally pulling down a good-size paycheck, owning a car outright -- or when our friends start dropping like flies (that's guyspeak for getting married).

But if you catch a guy before he hits that magical stage of his life, then he's liable to bolt -- like Patrick, 28, who dumped Bridgett after two years, then got engaged to the next girl he dated after only 10 months. "When I was with Bridgett, all of my friends were single and I was still an intern with nothing going on in my career. So every time she'd bring up our future together, it felt like she was jumping the gun," he says. "I didn't break up with her because she was wrong for me. I ended it because I didn't want to commit to anyone right then. But by the time I met Elizabeth, I was in a settling-down frame of mind."

We're Not Finished Playing the Field

Single men are natural-born one-uppers. If there's a possibility of upgrading what we already have for something better (that'll make our friends drool), we say, bring it on! So we wind up always wondering if you're really as good as it gets. (I know, scumbag mentality.) "Whenever I meet a new attractive woman, I consider what it would be like to date her, even if I have a girlfriend at the time," says Andy, 30. "The grass is always greener. No matter how great his current girl is, a guy doesn't want to feel like he's missing out."

In addition to our opportunistic tendencies, most guys feel compelled to put as many relationship conquests under their belts as possible. "I admit it -- I know the exact number of girls I've dated, no mental calculation required," says Dan, 29. "That's how aware I am of how many notches I have. And I'd never commit until I felt like I'd experienced enough different women." Every guy's definition of enough is different, so there's a chance he wrote you off just because you didn't come late enough on his own personal hit list. The moral of the story: Until we grow up, mark everything off our checklists or have too many friends convince us that we can't do better than you, the flight risk is real.

We're Fixated on the Worst-Case ScenarioFrom the times you chastise us for leaving a wet towel on the bed to those nights you rip through a pint of fudge ripple without stopping to breathe, we file each incident in a mental folder labeled "Evidence She'll Change for the Worse." We flip through that file whenever we're trying to decide if we want to hang on to the relationship. Blame our married friends who took the plunge before us, but many single men are hyperaware of what could go wrong down the road. Even if we're crazy about you now, we panic that you'll pack on the pounds and nag us day and night. So we secretly flag certain things that might be a harbinger of bad things to come. "I've seen it happen to too many of my friends," says Elliot, 29. "All they do is complain about how the romance takes a total nosedive after they get serious with a girl. So sometimes, even if the woman I'm dating is gorgeous, I freak out and bail."We're in Like, Not in Love

It's harsh but true. In fact, it's probably the most common reason we bolt. Just because a guy likes you a lot isn't a guarantee that it will evolve into love. And we're surprisingly intuitive when it comes to figuring out a girl's potential on this front. "I stayed with one woman for two years because we had fun together and she never pushed the issue, but I knew the minute I met her that she wasn't The One," says David, 30.

So why do we invest any time in a relationship that we know will ultimately end? Because we're able to live in the moment for a while and chalk it up to a good experience. But once you show that you're way more into us than we are into you, we'll dump you out of guilt. "I dated this girl for about a year, but as soon as she started using the L word, I had to end it," recalls Jay, 29. "It was hard. I cared about her and didn't want to hurt her. But I knew that if I stuck around, she'd have been happier at first but miserable later on. After all, she deserved to be with someone who loved her as much as she loved me."

We're Too into You

Just when you thought it was all bad news, here's a hard-to-fess-up admission: Guys are protective of their emotions. Translation: We're scared of being hurt. So, if we start to feel like we're getting into a situation where we'll be destroyed if you dump us, we might launch a preemptive strike and yank the plug first. For Gary, 27, showing his girlfriend of two years the exit felt like the only choice. "She was the first girl I was serious with, and I didn't like letting someone have that much power over me. I was starting to feel emotionally needy, and that was uncomfortable for me," he recalls. "So I ditched her to save myself!"

Sounds crazy, but cut us some slack. Think about how vulnerable and paranoid you feel when you're nuts about a guy, and realize that we go through the same thing with girls we really like. But our friends aren't as good at helping us get over an ex as yours are, plus being openly heartbroken makes us look like wusses. Nope, it's better to act like a winner before you turn us into a loser, which is when our natural self-preservation may come into play. Before the real humiliation and pain assail us like a plague, ending the relationship seems like a good option.

Are You About to Be Jilted?

• His cell phone is always off. He might be spending time with someone he doesn't want you to know about... or he just doesn't want to make himself available.
• He's reluctant to make plans. If he hems and haws about committing to anything -- even if it's in the semi-near future -- he's thinking about making a break for it.
• He's meaner. The passive-aggressive breakup is a guy standby. Some men intentionally turn into whiners to make sure you break up with them.
• He's distant. He doesn't want to feel connected to you -- or he's getting his needs filled somewhere else.

Sexiest Musicians Through the Zodiac..

This post is interesting. I just want to share it to all.. =)

Sexiest Musicians Through the Zodiac..

I sleep too much

I read Bo Sanchez's "Discover What You Really Need" in the internet. Why did I read it? I'm just undergoing a mild depression, as always.

“I sleep too much”

Naps are great for your health. But you know, sleep has become an addiction. Usually, too much sleep is a sign of depression or being overwhelmed by our problems. These people don’t want to wake up in the morning. And during the day, they want to crawl back in bed, under their covers, shielding themselves from the seemingly hostile world around them.
(from:http://bosanchez.ph/discover-what-you-really-need/)

I really really really wanted to go back to bed everyday. Every time I wake up in the morning I just wish it's a Saturday or a Sunday wherein I can spend my whole day under the covers, away from more problems that may arise. When I read these lines, it strike me. "Oo nga, totoo, that's what I feel." It's difficult to do my work, to mingle with my office mates, to be happy and satisfied with a job well done when I have other things on my mind. I often thought, what if I didn't wake up? Will all who knows me be there during my wake?

What I really need? Honestly I don't know what is it that I really need. I don't have the luxury of time to contemplate and to find my own self. I was carried away by my past, all the problems, those that hurt me emotionally, psychologically and physically.

The saying goes that your past defines who you are in the present. Obviously, my past was not something that I could be proud of.

22@29 : what I did.

Since I was on a day leave or off from work, I just spend my time in gateway. A friend told me I should have gone to Makati, then I laughed and said, "ang layo ng Makati, mahirao umuwi pag rush hour." Anyway, I didn't actually pampered myself though I just treated myself with a nice mocha iceblend and triple decker cheesecake from The Coffeebean & Tea leaf.

I also took the time to fix myself, well.. I wore my white tube dress and my knit jacket to cover up some skin. After finishing a relaxing blend of mocha and cheese I went to Rustan's to "shop-look" haha if that's the correct term. I didn't intend actually to shop but since I have a 1k worth of GC from Rustan's I might as well spend it on that day. I first thought of getting a new pair of shoes unfortunately, they don't have the kind of shoes I want. Then I went over to see branded Bags like Nine west and Liz Claiborne and even XOXO. They all are lovely! haha. I liked one bag of LC, the stripped green world work bag. I'm having second thoughts of buying it. haha it cost more than P2000.00. It's so nice but it's not cheap. haha. I had the money to buy it but I didn't. (kuripot talaga!! haha)
Next stop, I went over the perfume section to see and smell fragrances lang (kahit hindi ako talag bibili). It's not on my list, I still have my VS and my JS dessert treats perfume. There was this sales guy who approached me and gave me a sample scent of Versace for men and one for women. It's nice. He did what he does best, market the product. haha but he wasn't successful. It smelled good though but I'm not really into expensive perfumes. I just told him, I'll just inform him (referring to my boyfriend). ^_^
Then I went to the cineplex area. It's the last day of cinemanila film fest. Movies from Lino Brocka were shown and there was a mini party as a tribute to the fest.
Some of the now showing movies include: Highschool Musical 3, The House Bunny, a horror film that I can't remember (my apologies)
I chose to watch the House Bunny. It's a good movie, funny story and I like it.
That was the simple pampering I gave myself even with a stressful work load. I just need some more time off. =)

he still caters for me

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SAME SIDE OF THE MOON -Corinne May

I'm looking out the window where we sat to watch the stars
There's a chill within the air, it makes my heart long for your touch
You may be miles away
But as I kneel to pray

I see the same side of the moon
That we'll looking on when the world turns blue
And know that time and space can't come between me and you
We share the same side of the moon
And though you'll never see all my tears shine through
I know I'll never be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon

I picture you across the ocean, in your corner of the world
I pray the wind will blow my voice and gently whisper in your ear
Your night may be my day
And though the seasons change

It's still the same side of the moon
That we'll be looking on when the world turns blue
And know that time and space can't come between me and you
We share the same side of the moon
And though you'll never see all my tears shine through
I know I can't be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon
I know I can't be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon

blog entry during the wee hours of night

an exerpt from my multiply site.

No matter how hard I try to make a new blog entry, I just can't find the right words that would fit how I feel right now. It's very different. It's very difficult. It's not because I lost touch. It's because my mind is set only for work work work. I guess I don't have the same urge as before. There are no grades of 1.00, 1.25, 1.5, 1.75 in the reality. There is no grading procedure when writing a blog entry. But to some, it matters. I must say it is a subjective way of reacting to what has been written.
The reason before why I created my own site is to impress people of how I express myself through catered blog entries. However, as months passed and I am getting busier in school, I was not able to update my multiply. That... Until now...
I find making blogs a nice way for de-stressing not to mention I can share it with particular persons or groups. It also is a nice place (referring to the internet social activity network) of having the emotionally stressed calm themselves or speaking what they have in mind. I also make use of this as a means of connecting with friends even with busy schedules.
Let me get back to the first sentence I used " no matter how I try to make a new blog entry, I just can't find the right words that would fit how I feel right now." I still can't. "Kahit Filipino gamitin ko, wala pa din ako maisip." I don't think I'm already drained. I can still find simple reasons, I can still think of explanations. But what I don't have is the logic of getting those reasons, those explanations combined to compose an entry that would be interpreted as my own feelings and thoughts.
Many things happen in the office during my work schedule. But when I got home, "panis na yung balita, napagusapan na, bukas iba naman." And I will not be gaining from those hearsay, news and sidestuff that happened. What I have right now is just thinking within the box. The box which represents the company's policies, terms and conditions, etc. The box which sustains the company that would end up giving me the bread and butter. It is with this kind of realization that makes me struggle for perfections in my work and for a well deserved compensation (that would make me feel contented even for a bit).
For a bit would mean that I would be contented even if many problems arise. I always ask myself "WHY?" ........ I would have to restrain myself. I would have to end this but there are a lot of things I want to write down. I just don't know how to say and organize my thoughts. haha! "hirap eh, puro work nalang kasi!"

P.S.
Additional, I want to watch the finals for the UAAP. Kaso wala ng ticket. huhu =(

UAAP season 72

Last last week, I thought of going to the DLSU vc ADMU game during the UAAP season 72 at the Big Dome. Everything was set, I have talked with one of my kumare about the tickets and how will I be getting it. starting last Aug 30 until 31, I checked with the ticket booth if the tickets were already out but to no avail, it will be for selling on Sept. 1. A little upset but, fine.
Then Sept. 1, I dropped by at the ticket booth at the side of the Big Dome to get the tickets. There were no lines and yehey for me, I thought. Unfortunately, the ticket seller told me that it was SOLD OUT already. After some time of thinking and strolling around the vicinity, I lost hope of getting tickets and went home.
Then within the week, I was also talking with Tere for the UAAP cheering competition. According to her, her client is the wife of the administrator of Ateneo for the UAAP and she has some complimentary tickets which the organization gives out. The date of cheering was nearing. I am so confident that we could watch it live in the Big Dome. But last friday, there was a bad news. My friend texted me and informed me that her client wasn't able to get complimentary tickets. There was a change in the management for this year's UAAP season. There were no complimentary tickets given to her and tickets are already sold out. =(
"sobrang sayang talaga."
Next day, Saturday, DSLU-ADMU game. I was a bit not interested anymore though I watch the first 2 half of the game (kasi I also like watching Chris Tiu hehe, to be honest, di ko kilala si Chris Tiu dati. As in ngaun lang year 2008, August ko nalaman na ung nasa pinoy records eh sya un hehe .) I wasn't able to watch the 3rd and 4th part of the game because I accompanied my mom to the grocery. However, it was good to hear that Ateneo won the match.
Sunday, cheering competition, I also watch it in studio 23 for a good 3 hours. I was a bit envious to all those people cheering for their own schools and being there to watch it live.
The pep sqauds competing did a very good job with their routines as well as creativity with their costumes and props. But I still support my school--UP. hehe. The event was nearing to an end with 2 schools left, Ateneo and NU ( if I'm not mistaken). The Ateneo Blue Babbles? I'm not very sure about the exact name ( no offense). I'm a little puzzled with why ADMU pep squad is named Blue Babbles. Then I asked my boyfriend if he knows, (he studied in Ateneo for a good 3 years before transferring to the US). But he didn't also know why.
Alas! The competition ended with UP winning the 2008 cheering for UAAP. Very good job isko and iska =)